What is Counseling?
Psychotherapy, commonly known as “Counseling”, is a process that helps people gain perspective and self-understanding. As a result, they can learn to solve their own problems, achieve their goals, and enjoy their relationships.
Psychotherapy also helps foster the personal growth and development needed to heal emotional pain, overcome anxiety, and resolve relationship difficulties.
How does it work?
Psychotherapy will help you clarify and more objectively evaluate your thoughts and feelings. This clarity and objectivity will give you the perspective and self-confidence to break old patterns and adopt new, more effective ways of getting what you want in your life.
How long does it take?
Some problems can be resolved within a month. Others require a series of sessions over a longer period of time. Often people begin by solving one problem and continue in therapy to explore and improve other areas of their lives.
How to get started
You are already doing what it takes to get started! Finding out about the therapist’s specialty, approach, and training will help you choose the one that fits your needs. Then, call the therapist and request an Initial Consultation.
Why you should have an Assessment Consultation?
The assessment consultation serves two purposes. The first is for you to get the therapist’s assessment of your situation and to find out how the therapist proposes to help you.
The second purpose is for you to assess the therapist’s listening skills, understanding of your situation, expertise, and professionalism.
Therapy works best when you and the therapist feel there is a ‘fit’. So take your time and be willing to talk to a second or third therapist until you find a good fit for you.
My theoretical orientation guides me in assessing the specific needs that are unique to my clients and how to best help them with those issues.
My approach is based on a variety of theories, including The Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) and The Differentiation model:
- The Differentiation model was developed by David Schnarch, PhD. – author of: Constructing the Sexual Crucible, Passionate Marriage, Resurrecting Sex and Intimacy and Desire.
- The Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) model was developed by Stan Tatkin, PH.D, author of: Wired for Love, Love and War in Intimate relationship and Your Brain on Love. This model integrates the science of the latest brain studies and attachment theory.
To learn more about what I do as a PACT therapist, and what is Differentiation, please go to the Couples and Intimacy page.
In my 30 years of experience I have worked with many couples, individuals, and children using various theoretical modalities. I use my knowledge and experience to customize the best approach for each situation. I find the Differentiation Model and the PACT Model to be most effective in getting to the heart of the issues and the dynamics that exist in each relationship.
Often marital problems present an opportunity to develop a greater differentiation, a stronger sense of who we are, and a more effective way of relating to our partner. This includes knowing our partner, his or her habitual responses and responding in a way that deepens intimacy and closeness.
Therapy is a relational experience. As I work with you in my office, I use my observation skills, insights and intuitions as tools to help you understand your internal processes and dynamics.
I believe that problems are “messages” … they present us with an opportunity to examine ourselves and find better ways to interact and strengthen our relationships. In a confidential and supportive environment we can discuss your concerns and how to best achieve your desired goals.